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Emotional Blackmail literal speaking means 訴諸情感的"黑信"???
nono! blackmail是勒索的意思
以下是在網路上一位男士寫自己對"emotional blackmail"的觀感：(節錄自
http://phiawz.blogspot.com/2006/05/of-mars-and-venus.html
Men are really from Mars and women from Venus..

很多女生都认为男生不了解她们。这点其实我挺赞同的。女生的脾气还比天气变化得快，真的时常令人错手不及。她们的想法简直和男生所猜测的有天地之差。但是，我也觉得女生也并不是很明白男生罢了。她们不懂男生不是很喜欢玩猜谜语这个游戏的。她们不了解男生的想法是很单纯直接的；喜欢异性在有什么不愉快的情况下就直接的说出口。有些女生更不懂事，明知男生的自负是很大的，却很喜欢在鸡蛋里挑骨头，找些无聊的理由薄贬他。


但是，一般最可怕的女生是知道男生的弱点，而从中下毒手的女生。女生第一武器是所谓的 Emotional Blackmail。这包过哭在内，目的是使男生们感到内疚惭愧，自暴自气。接下来的部分我会用英文来写，因为对象是一个不会读华语的女生。


A girl's greatest weapon: Emotional Blackmail

What is Emotional Blackmail? It is a statement or behavior, which uses your fear, guilt, obligation, or confusion to trap you into giving the abuser power over you. It sounds very criminal but actually most people use Emotional Blackmail on each other from time-to-time without realizing it (Sorry to say but it is usually committed by the female species). Likewise, a lot of people are also actually victims of Emotional Blackmail unknowingly. I first came across this term in a book by the world renowned ‘body language’ master Allan Pease.